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A Change is as Good as a Rest: Toothbrushing Trials

9/9/2019

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One thing I noted in my recent blog for It’s A Sling Thing was the phenomenon of “Mummy do it”.  As much as you may try to share the aspects of child rearing equally, your little one may make their preferences felt. Aside from being frustrating, this can lock the roles for different tasks in place. One way around this is to insist on taking turns. If you are consistent with this, it should become automatic, however, in the early days this can be frustrating & tedious. Nowhere is this more evident in our household than in the task of tooth brushing.


​After approximately 3 years of tears and frustration, we got our daughter an electric toothbrush. We got all of us electric toothbrushes, but after some initial excitement it proved a bit scary so we decided to leave it for a bit. One evening, the battle to clean teeth was a bit too frustrating, and an ultimatum was given: you're going to have to start using the electronic one. Surprisingly, it went extremely smoothly, to the extent that we had to say: “ok, it's time to stop brushing your teeth now. No, really, you have to stop. Stop!” After the initial fear was replaced by curiosity came the realization that it was actually tickly and fun and a whole lot easier than mum or dad doing it for you, there was no looking back. We started the brushing, then after about a minute, it's her turn and she brushed for another minute or so. Giving her control over the toothbrush gets her better at brushing her teeth and makes it something she is doing for herself, rather than something that is being done for and to her. Giving toddlers some control in a situation can really help to reduce the conflict, especially if you can offer choices that all result in getting to the end goal of brushed teeth!
​So far, so good. What happens when the novelty wears off? Back to the battle of wills? Fortunately, we had another trick up our sleeve. The toothbrush came with an app (actually downloadable for free but with extra characters if you unlock it with the barcode from the toothbrush). This one plays cheesy music for two minutes while a picture of Mickey Mouse is revealed. It is mesmerising, apparently, which means that you not only get two minutes of tooth brushing but that in general they will sit still for it! Now, I’m not a big believer in pacifying toddlers with technology, but here I believe the benefit outweighs the risks. Clean, healthy teeth in exchange for a bit of limited screen time.
​There are limits to everything, of course, and the novelty of the app starts to wear off eventually. Hopefully the other characters that can be unlocked will keep up the novelty for a while. A larger potential problem is if the app is unavailable. This particular one needs a WIFI connection (for no obvious reason) so when WIFI was patchy on a recent holiday we had to do without. By then, though, our preschooler had become accustomed to brushing for two minutes so this was okay. Now we can take or leave the app, although it can still provide a useful motivational tool if the morning routine is grinding to a stop. Toothbrushing is now part of our daily ritual or routine, the pattern of our day that is familiar and predictable to our pre-schooler, and because it is no longer a battle of wills it isn’t something she dreads or considers a bad thing, so it mostly happens pretty smoothly. Building tasks like this into our day so they are predictable for our children helps keep them calm about these activities. And if the way you are doing it at the moment isn’t working for you all, see if there are simple ways you can change things. Giving a child choice about the song to listen to, or the colour of their new toothbrush, or whether they stand at the sink or sit on your lap can all help give them an element of control and make them more comfortable about an activity, and changing until you find a new balance and then sticking with what works can make common tasks like toothbrushing calmer all round!
​So, the verdict? Use every tool you can get your hands on to make your life simpler! Seriously, though, kids do love technology & if it happens to coincide with dental advice that can’t be a bad thing.

David Bones: ToddlerCalm Consultant Leeds

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David Bones is a trainee CalmFamily Consultant in West Yorkshire. He is a busy dad with two daughters as well as his day job as a chemistry researcher at the University of Leeds. Originally from New Zealand, he moved to Leeds 7 years ago. He joined CalmFamily last year, impressed by the combination of science and empathy-based discipline.

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