10 tips on how to help your toddler have a healthy relationship with food
 
1 Trust your child
We need to trust our children to know when they are hungry and when they are not. It's important we allow them to listen to their body signals.
Portion sizes for toddlers are much less than we think. And they take on all the nutrients they need over the course of a week rather than each day. All you have to do it make sure you are offering a variety of healthy food.
 
2 Keep the emotion out of it.
It is really important not to praise a child for eating. This can set up food as a reward or a comfort when unhappy, which may lead to comfort eating later in life. It is also important not to punish children for not eating. Creating negative associations with food is likely to increase any strugles you have with your child's eating habits. If you feel the need to comment then simply say what you see. ‘You've eaten all your peas’.
 
3 Offer ‘safe’ foods with every meal
Toddlers reduce the variety of food they will eat from around 18 months until 5 years of age. This is a biological mechanism which is designed to keep them safe. They only eat foods they have regularly eaten or can recognise. When providing your toddler with a meal you are not sure they will like, offer them some ‘safe’ foods alongside it so there is  always something they are happy to eat available.. Don't stop offering them foods because they don't eat them, they have to see and experience a food many times before they add it to their safe category. 

I'm Kristy, Mummy to Lana and wife to James, and we live just outside Cambridge. I am passionate about becoming compassionate in all aspects of my life, to children to adults, to the environment and to animals. I also love being outside in nature (when it's not too rainy, cold or hot), watching a movie, reading a book and generally sitting doing nothing. I am here to help support parents in the most challenging times, and help them to parent the way they want to, confidently, compassionately and consciously.

A quick Google of the ‘top ten christmas gifts for babies’ or ‘stocking fillers for babies' will bring up all manner of ideas from baby gyms to personalised sleepsuits and all sorts of other sundry items. But what do newborn babies really want? The answer is really not a lot, when they are so little they have needs, not wants and absolutely all of these can be met by the nurturing care of their parents.

Now, personally, I’m all for just not buying the newborn baby anything, I’m very anti buying stuff for the sake of stuff. However if you do want to give a christmas gift to a newborn, perhaps you give gifts to older siblings and don’t want to miss the little one out or maybe their parents bought for your baby so now you want to do the same for them, whatever the motivation, how can you choose something that is really going to be something useful and not just end up in the landfill along with the vast array of other Christmas nic-nacs we buy so frivolously at this time of year?

I had a really good think back to when my little ones had their first Christmases and sure enough, for the most part I have to be honest and say I really can’t remember much. While that might say something about my memory, or more lack of it, I think it says more about the gifts themselves. Disposable items and novelty gifts, that while I’m grateful somebody took the time to choose for my baby, really just amounted to more waste creation in the long run. However, there were a few that stuck, my eldest still has an Eeyore teddy brought for her first christmas and I remember being given a toaster one year by a friend that had noticed mine had broken.

We all get suckered into the commercialism and need to buy things for people to show we care when really we do it all year round without needing to be prompted.
So, what do we do about it? If not buying really isn’t an option, here’s my suggestions for making it meaningful. Some of the greatest gifts my children and I have recieved over the years have been the smallest or haven’t even been things at all.

Its absolutely ok to ask if the parents have any ideas for things they might want. It might be that their baby showed an interest in a particular toy at a group they went to or they really would like a christmas outfit for their newborn. Perhaps they are saving for something bigger that you could contribute to, a newborn photo shoot or a few days away as a family.
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It does take away from the element of surprise, however it does mean you know it’s something they genuinely want and are going to appreciate. I know some of these things might not seem like they’re ‘for' the baby but babies really don’t need things, contributing to the family is just as special.

​It can be tricky to shift focus from the baby to the adults, but actually a gift of something that is needed by the baby's parents can really take the pressure and stress off which will benefit everyone. Maybe they need the next size up baby grows or cot bedding or perhaps they’re saving for a baby carrier or buggy or microwave or whatever that you could chip in for.
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I know practical gifts aren’t often as exciting, but they will be very much appreciated if they are something the recipients really need.

Is there something that you could do with or for the baby and their family? This doesn’t have to be anything massive or extravagant. You could offer to take older siblings out for the afternoon to give the parents some time with their newborn, You could cook a meal, help decorate a bedroom, crochet a blanket, arrange a day out together.
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The possibilities here really are endless and the only limit is your imagination and creativity. It can also be a really nice way of having something to look forward to in the new year and spreads christmas gifting throughout the coming year. One of the nicest ‘Christmas presents' we ever had as a family was a day at the zoo in June!

Still stuck for ideas? My go-to here are small gifts that have been carefully thought about. It can be difficult if you’ve been given no direction at all, but if you know the parents well, you'll have an idea of things they might like. Mixing in some practicality, sentiment and fun; a set of leg warmers in a funky pattern, a book you used to enjoy as a child, a framed photo of them with their baby, a stocking they can use year after year.
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Whatever it is you choose, keep the receipt and be happy to hand it over. Though it may seem harsh, it isn’t ungrateful. Better to say that something doesn’t quite fit or isn’t to someone’s taste it than to have it sit unloved and unused till it ends up in the bin. That way it can be swapped for something that is wanted or needed and there’s no need to feel bad, everyone gets it wrong sometimes... A couple of years ago my son asked for a dressing gown, I spent ages choosing the one I thought was right for him; it was the wrong size, he hated the colour and it was too fluffy!

A gift is a great way to show you care and we are conditioned to want to shower new arrivals with gifts, but keep in mind that what the gift signifies, your love for the family, is so much more important than what is inside the wrapping paper. There are many ways to show people you care, so whether you choose to buy something, or nothing, we hope the newborns and their families feel showered with love this Christmas, and always.