I did a few. There were some I didn't do and would still love to. Some of them were awesome.
However, nothing ever offered everything I wanted to do, or fit what I wanted to teach perfectly, so as usual, I ended up doing my own thing; a mix of it all, but mostly from my instincts. Of course I became much more focused on babies and toddlers as the years went on due to circumstances and that has been wonderful, but birth always calls me back and many people suggested I write a programme. I refused on the basis that there are lots and lots of programmes already and some are really really good - many in fact.
So why? Why did I decide to create BirthCalm and how is it different? Because it is different...
Why do we need another birth programme?
I was driving my car one day, an activity that allows me to meditate on important ideas, and the concept of BirthCalm walked into my mind. Having said no to others so many times, I had never asked myself, and when I did... I said "actually, there is a gap in the market and some people, many in fact, really need this version of birth education". The community needs this!
The concept was simply, providing what we do with BabyCalm and ToddlerCalm: evidence, empowerment, empathy and equality. How is that different?
To be honest, this simple concept existed for quite some time in my mind mostly but also as some random notes and frameworks. I needed to focus on CalmFamily as a community and I needed to get BabyCalm and ToddlerCalm in better order. It was in discussing my concept with some wonderful new BabyCalm consultants that it started to be real. Still we stayed in a holding pattern.
It wasn't until myself and Holly Heather (a long standing hypnobirthing instructor and awesome parenting consultant) realised that what we have each evolved as our own programmes are largely the same with a few differing ways of teaching and creativity around different specialisms of knowledge. That is when BirthCalm stopped being a concept and became a programme, and every time Holly and I develop it further we realise how very exciting a programme it is.
Why is BirthCalm so special?
Well I have kind of said it but in more detail, the concept means that we provide neuroscience, psychology, biology, physiology and tie it together in a simple format that anyone can understand. We never provide advice or solutions - ever. We talk about all the options, what they are actually doing for you and we support parents to make individual choices.
Importantly, it doesn't cost the earth. The price point allows for parents to also go and learn deeper with whichever tools that they want to understand and practice more. This also means that people already working in birth, whether a doula, midwife, hypnobirthing instructor, yoga teacher or literally anything else, can run BirthCalm sessions as another option, a starting point and a wonderful structure to use. It can be used like a teaser trailer that is enough for some but can link to your other specialisms.
Being a CalmFamily consultant is pretty special too
We are raising the birth game and we want everyone to win
Right now, BirthCalm education is only being run in West Sussex by our programme leader Holly Heather and the feedback has been incredible. But now, it becomes a team sport. Want to play?
Emily Wilding Fackrell - Founder and managing director of CalmFamily
Emily transformed what was BabyCalm Ltd into a social enterprise that is a collaborative, learning organisation and an education community. Emily's mission is to raise a generation of humans in a way that enables for a more equal and empathic society.