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Time Out Should Feel Good

12/9/2018

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​I’ve just seen this doing the rounds on Facebook, and I love it.
 
I love it for two reasons.
 
Firstly, because a time out is exactly what parents need sometimes.  And a time out that feels like a treat, like something special, is just what our overwhelmed, stressed out selves need to regroup.
 
I’m not (necessarily) advocating getting drunk to cope with parenting.  But I want to emphasise the concept that a time out for a parent should consist of something that that parent likes! And that helps that parent to feel restored and revitalised. 
 
Time out should FEEL GOOD!
 
And the second reason I like this picture, is because the idea of time out being a chance for a treat, can be equally applied to children as it is to their parents.
 
Children (just like us adults) act out when they are overwhelmed. 
 
Think about the moments that you snap at your partner? Are you tired? Hungry? Feeling unappreciated? Facing unrealistic expectations? Still processing a stressful day at work?
 
We act out when we are overloaded and overwhelmed, and our children are exactly the same.  Every time there is some seemingly purposeful negative behaviour from our child, have a think as to what the underlying reason might be.
 
I have a list of five things that seem to be at the heart of every single problem behaviour I see in my kids:


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I stayed quiet about smacking last week and this is why...

25/10/2017

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A guest blog from Holly Heather of Calm Birth, Calm Parenting.
I stayed quiet last week whilst the smacking debate was raging through social media. 
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Fundamentally I agree with Scotland's decision to make smacking illegal. I don't think it is ever the right choice for discipline. I don't think it is a good parenting tool. 


I agree with all the arguments that hitting adults is classed as assault and abuse, and so should hitting children. 

I agree that there are a million other things we can do instead of using violence towards our children. 

And yet....
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