We often talk to parents in a bit of a panic because they have booked their dream holiday with their child or children and when the reality of the long haul flight (or even just a short flight with an energetic toddler) sinks in, they don't know where to turn or how to keep them calm, and keep themselves calm. So we have put together some top tips for having a calm-er flight experience with a baby or toddler. We hope you like them:
I’ve just been to the cinema with my husband (a very rare treat these days!), and we saw the film Lady Bird. Have any of you seen it?
It is basically a story of a teenager’s relationship with her mother as they go through her last year of school and applications to college.
There is a scene in the film that really struck me. Lady Bird is asking her mother for approval, and her mother comes out with “I just want you to be the most perfect version of yourself you can possibly be.”
And Lady Bird replies “What if this IS the most perfect version of me?”
I’ve just seen this doing the rounds on Facebook, and I love it.
I love it for two reasons.
Firstly, because a time out is exactly what parents need sometimes. And a time out that feels like a treat, like something special, is just what our overwhelmed, stressed out selves need to regroup.
I’m not (necessarily) advocating getting drunk to cope with parenting. But I want to emphasise the concept that a time out for a parent should consist of something that that parent likes! And that helps that parent to feel restored and revitalised.
Time out should FEEL GOOD!
And the second reason I like this picture, is because the idea of time out being a chance for a treat, can be equally applied to children as it is to their parents.
Children (just like us adults) act out when they are overwhelmed.
Think about the moments that you snap at your partner? Are you tired? Hungry? Feeling unappreciated? Facing unrealistic expectations? Still processing a stressful day at work?
We act out when we are overloaded and overwhelmed, and our children are exactly the same. Every time there is some seemingly purposeful negative behaviour from our child, have a think as to what the underlying reason might be.
I have a list of five things that seem to be at the heart of every single problem behaviour I see in my kids:
A guest blog from Holly Heather of Calm Birth, Calm Parenting.