A guest blog from Holly Heather of Calm Birth, Calm Parenting.
I wonder how many of you feel that guilt in your soul like I do? That you too have lost control. Lost your shit. Lashed out at your child.
This one, particularly in her toddler years took me to the edge many a time. She pushed me more than I ever knew I could be pushed.
I will hold my hands up. I have smacked. It has never been a rational, conscious choice. It's never been a premeditated parenting tool. It has been during moments when I've reached the end of my tether, I've been tired, emotional, unhappy. Does that make it justifiable? Fuck no. Does it make me human? I guess.
I bang on about being selfish and putting self care first. Because I KNOW I am a great mum. But I know I can be infinitely better when I'm well rested, happy, fulfilled and looked after.
Smacking is not something I ever wanted to do. It's not something I ever want to do again. But I've done it, as I'm sure many many others have done too. Let's be kind to ourselves and try harder to look after our own wellbeing so this next generation know loving cuddles not stinging thighs. Our kids deserve better.
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Holly Heather is a single mother of two and teaches the Calm birth method, Babycalm and writes about her experiences in motherhood.
You can read her musings at www.facebook.com/hollyheatherhypno